DEAR DEIDRE: I’M being stalked by my teacher ex and I’m too scared to report her in case nobody believes me.
She was abusive throughout our six year relationship and I thought life would get better after I left, but instead she’s turned my life into a nightmare.
I’m 35 and she’s 33. I left six months ago, when I had enough of her jealousy, mood swings and controlling behaviour.
She wouldn’t let me have female friends and she put me down constantly.
Since I got the courage to walk out, she hasn’t left me alone.
She views everything I post online from new accounts and even hangs out in the café next to my office to monitor me.
I’m scared of what she might do next.
Everyone thinks she’s respectable and charming. She’s even told them I was the one who was abusive.
What can I do?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Recent high profile cases have highlighted how men need to be taken seriously when it comes to stalking cases.
She’s relying on your fear that you won’t be believed to intimidate you and make your life miserable.
Confide in friends and family for support, so others are aware of what she’s doing.
Block any account she sets up, up your security settings, and keep a detailed diary of everything she does and says, so you have evidence.
For professional advice, call the National Stalking Helpline (suzylamplugh.org, tel: 0808 802 0300). You can also email: advice@stalkinghelpline.org.
Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team
Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.
Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you.
You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page or email us at:
deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk
