DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend is getting annoyed with me because I sleep on the sofa most nights.
I don’t do it because I don’t love him, it’s because I get way too hot at night.
I’m also very fidgety. I don’t want to disturb him because he gets up very early for work and needs quality sleep.
I’m 37 and my boyfriend’s 38. We’ve been living together for almost a year.
I don’t know what the problem is.
I love him and we have a great relationship. We regularly have sex.
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It is just for practical reasons, I prefer to sleep alone.
I don’t understand why my boyfriend can’t accept it. It’s as if he thinks I’m not telling the truth.
He’s started to become really surly around me and I’m starting to wonder if our relationship is worth this stress.
DEIDRE SAYS: Sleeping on the sofa is not much fun for you either.
Your email has made me wonder if you might have restless leg syndrome which can also affect your arms, torso and head.
Having a fan in the bedroom or sleeping next to an open window can help. Bamboo or linen sheets are highly breathable too.
And sleeping on your side allows more heat to escape from your body.
Try avoiding alcohol and caffeine late at night and quitting smoking as these are all known to affect sleep quality.
The charity Restless Leg Syndrome UK (rls-uk.org) can provide support.
