A DAD who has been given months to live has married the love of his life in a “reality TV show-style wedding” put together within five days.
John McMahon, a 59-year-old former assistant manager for Glasgow City Council, was diagnosed with cancer in 2020.
John McMahon and Julie Burnett tied the knot at the Glasgow hospice he’s staying in[/caption]
John said they felt like ‘stars’ with the ‘reality TV show style’ wedding[/caption]
The wedding was planned within five days[/caption]
After some initial treatment, doctors told John there was nothing more they could do until the opportunity for radiotherapy arose last year, giving him hope.
However, one month later the “unbearable” pain returned in his right lung, and in February this year John was given the crushing news that the cancer is terminal and he has six to 12 months to live.
Having met his soulmate Julie Burnett, a 55-year-old housekeeper, just five years ago, and with time “short”, the couple decided to get married early.
They tied the knot at the Marie Curie Hospice in Glasgow, where John is staying, in June.
The wedding was arranged in just five days and featured a Victoria sponge cake, a floral archway, confetti and a full buffet courtesy of the hospice chef, with John wearing a black suit and Julie wearing pink.
“It was such a joyous occasion – I got to marry the woman I love,” John said.
“I couldn’t believe that the hospice could or would do this for us and pull all the right strings to make it happen and make it possible.
“It gave us some kind of normality to have a proper wedding exactly as we wanted.
“They went above and beyond what should be done or needed to be done to make it special.”
Sharing his advice to others, he added: “Make as many memories as you can with the people you love and take life one day at a time.”
John – who has three children called Iain, Liam and Shannon – received his cancer diagnosis in 2020, but does not wish to specify which type.
He underwent treatment, but this was unsuccessful, and doctors told him there was nothing further that could be done.
“Last year I was given the chance for some radiotherapy and they thought the tumour had gone,” he explained.
“A month later the pain recurred and I was told in February this year the cancer was terminal and I would have six to 12 months to live.
“I remember it was St Patrick’s Day when they told me – we hoped the radiotherapy had done its job but I knew something wasn’t right, so I addressed the elephant in the room.”
John and his now-wife Julie were neighbours in a block of six houses in Glasgow and would often “say hello” to each other on the path outside.
They met around five years ago and, after chatting at length one day, John invited her out for a meal at The Crystal Palace Wetherspoons, where he had a mixed grill and she had fish and chips.
He then proposed to her informally at the same Spoons boozer in August 2020, before getting down on one knee “properly” at home later that evening.
John has cancer and was told he has 6 to 12 months to live[/caption]
The devoted dad said hospice staff thought of everything[/caption]
The cake was just one of the cute touches from the day[/caption]
Speaking about the words he would use to describe Julie, he said: “Love, life, soul.”
He added: “Julie has a heart of gold and doesn’t realise it. She has always stood by me and we have the same sense of humour.”
Given John’s prognosis, the couple had been discussing marriage and decided to bring the date forward to June 14 2024.
John said: “I wanted to tie up loose ends and make sure Julie would be safe and ensure she was financially secure.
“I love her and want to do everything possible to protect her.”
With pink decorations, flowers, a cake, sandwiches and a professional photographer who offered his time for free, John said they were able to have a “reality TV show-style wedding” with friends and family.
He even refers to the hospice staff as his “extended family” now and said they enabled him and Julie to have the “perfect” day.
He said: “It was very emotional – Carol [the hospice chaplain] made it intimate and as special as possible.
“Through her dedication and experience and everyone’s help, they managed to give us a proper reality TV show-style wedding.
“We felt like total stars.”
John said he was first brought into Marie Curie Hospice in Glasgow in March this year to manage his pain, as it has been “unbearable” in recent months.
He said he initially believed that “you went into the hospice to die”, but receiving care in a peaceful and calming environment has alleviated his concerns – and the hospice has now become his “safety net”.
He hopes to spend as much time as possible with Julie, family and friends with the time he has left and said he wants to continue making memories.
“I take every day as it comes, I know I can’t plan ahead,” John said.
“I’m not sure I’ll make it home again but I’d love one last fishing trip to Balloch.
“I hope to die in the night in the hospice. I don’t want my wife to have to watch me die and I know I’m safe here – I have people who care.”
He continued: “I am determined to embrace life – with Julie – while I still can.
“(Being in the hospice) has helped me realise that it is not all over yet and I can still have some life and normality which I am very grateful for.”
Carol, the hospice chaplain, said: “John and Julie’s wedding was wonderful. Getting married was very important to John, and when he was admitted to the hospice, he thought they’d missed the chance.
“We were able to say: ‘You can still have your wedding and we can still make it special for you’. He was absolutely delighted. He and Julie were so excited and positive.
“I was so touched by John’s determination to stand when Julie walked into the room and for their vows. Despite this being very difficult due to his illness, he saw it as a way of showing his love and respect.”
