A PREGNANT woman recalled how her fiance cheated on her before going MIA.
As well as being abandoned, she said her partner didn’t even have the decency to tidy up after his affair.
A Reddit user recalled finding evidence of her fiance’s affair while she was pregnant (stock image)[/caption]
In a Reddit post, the unnamed user detailed her relationship and the day her ex walked out on her.
She revealed that she and her fiance had been together for three years, explaining that she “loved him more than anything.”
The poster described the betrayal as “the worst pain I’ve ever felt” and added that she is “so incredibly heartbroken.”
She explained that her fiance didn’t even know she was pregnant and that she had planned to surprise him on his birthday the following month.
However, she said one day it was as if a “switch just flipped” in her partner.
“I noticed he was first off two weeks ago, after we came home from my friends place after hanging out,” she recalled.
“He seemed distant but I just chalked it up to him being tired, but then he continued to be a little distant.”
At first, she assumed his behaviour was a result of work-related stress.
She explained that they hadn’t had sex as he wasn’t usually “in the mood.”
When she decided to go out of town to visit her sister, she said she wasn’t suspicious at all when her fiance said he would hang back and work for the weekend.
However, when she returned home she discovered what he had really been up to.
“He knew what day and what time I would be coming home yet when I got into our home the kitchen hadn’t been cleaned from what was obviously a romantic dinner,” she explained.
“When I got to the bedroom, the sheets were a mess and and a woman’s lingerie was on the floor by the door.
“His trousers and their shoes were in the hallway, very obviously hastily taken off on the way to our shared bedroom, our shared bed.”
The poster described how his “careless” attitude towards her finding out hurt even more.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“He knew what I would see and didn’t even bother to clean up. Did he really think I’d stay? Did he really think I just wouldn’t care?” she said.
She revealed that he proceeded to ghost her when she attempted to reach out after the incident.
“He’s not picking up my calls and when I texted him I realised he’d blocked me.”
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“I’m so sorry you’re going through this. To be honest, it kind of sounds like he wanted to be caught,” pointed out one reader.
“I’m so sorry, but you have been dumped, and in the callous, cruelest way imaginable,” wrote another person.
“He has shown you that he has little respect for you. Get your things, leave, tell his family, and get therapy,’ suggested a third commenter.
