Annie Kilner’s £15M demands show she’s no doormat… it’s not ‘grabby’ to protect herself after Kyle Walker’s cheating

SHE’S been branded a ‘doormat’ by fellow WAG Rebekah Vardy and slated repeatedly for remaining silent on her husband’s infidelity by his mistress Lauryn Goodman.

But this week it was revealed that silently savvy Annie Kilner has given cheating Man City star Kyle Walker an ultimatum: pay her HALF his £27 million fortune now or lose their marriage for good.

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Kylie and Annie are childhood sweethearts – but he fathered two children with Lauryn Goodman during their relationship[/caption]

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Influencer Lauryn, pictured above, is the mother to Kyle’s two love children[/caption]

Sources close to the star also revealed that desperate Annie, 31, asked at least four footballer’s wives for advice before marrying the love rat to ensure financial “security” in case he strayed again.

It comes following months of silence from mum-of-four Annie, who kicked Kyle out of the family home in December when it was revealed that he’d fathered a second child with influencer Lauryn behind her back.

Reaction to Annie’s requests have been largely in support of the betrayed WAG.

“I hope she takes him for everything. Poor Annie, she and her boys deserve so much better. Kyle is a rat end of,” one fan mused.

Another added: “Annie is ensuring her and her children’s future and removes 50% of Walker’s wealth from Goodman’s clutches. Good for her.”

So is Annie making the right choice in demanding half of everything Kyle owns – or does it suggest she’s too focused on the money?

Here, as part of our Celebs on the Couch series, The Sun’s Agony Aunt, Sally Land, reveals all…

SALLY SAYS: While it may seem grabby for a partner who has opted to stay at home or work less hours to ask for a hefty settlement, there are sound reasons.

After all, without that spouse putting their career on hold to look after the children, run the home and support their partner, the family wouldn’t be able to function at all.

And of course there will always be the detractors who question any woman’s financial demands, but I’m not sure you can put a price on domestic harmony.

I’d never encourage anyone to get hitched when there are trust issues, until those are sorted out and both parties can prove they are ready for a genuine commitment, life will only become more complex.

However, it is understandable why a mum with children would be persuaded to get married to try and bring stability. Still, the same rules apply without trust, the marriage will fail.

Any man with parental responsibility will have a legal responsibility to provide for their children after a relationship break down.

When you’re married, things are a lot simpler. When you divorce, all the assets of the marriage are treated as joint assets, so you have a better chance of a fair settlement.

Four red flags your partner is cheating

Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.

They start to take their phone everywhere with them

In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”

“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating.  You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.

“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere.  Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime.  A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.

So for anyone entering a long term relationship, the best way to protect yourself financially is to get married, or enter a civil partnership.

When it comes to the emotional fallout of choosing someone who keeps letting you down, it is never as simple as sticking with someone for the money and especially so when children are involved.

Women who are with a partner who constantly strays are often battling against low self-esteem. They might believe they aren’t good enough in the bedroom, not attractive enough, or sexy enough.

Demoralise, they think if they can just lose more weight, become more alluring, this time they will be able to keep their man.

They may also forgive the infidelities because they are overly focused on how their relationship and family could be – not how their partner behaves in reality.

It can help these partners to get help to look at why they were attracted in the first place to a man who spelled trouble, and why they put up with it for so long.

Women who are with a partner who constantly strays are often battling against low self-esteem. They might believe they aren’t good enough in the bedroom, not attractive enough, or sexy enough

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All too often these women became used to being short-changed emotionally in childhood so they can’t imagine what it would feel like to be loved wholeheartedly.

And here’s the rub – his cheating is not about you. This is a man with an emotional problem which will prevent him ever sharing a fully mature and faithful relationship with any woman.

Of course, one huge reason why women tolerate cheating before showing them the door is that they have children together and they feel guilty about depriving them of their father.

Terrible husbands are often great dads and knowing your children won’t see them on a daily basis can cause a great sense of regret.

And so plenty of mums put up with shoddy behaviour because they believe their children benefit.

Still, it’s important to think about what your children are witness to. If they see their father repeatedly cheating and their mother accepting this behaviour, they may well repeat the same behaviours when they grow up.

When parents become so miserable it creates a tense and unhappy atmosphere at home, the children are the first to be affected.

It is a huge step but in these cases it is worth considering coparenting and for many families separating brings more stability for everyone involved.

If you have got caught in an unhealthy cycle of infidelity and forgiveness you can write to my counsellors for free advice and information at deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk.