PARENTHOOD can be overwhelming, especially in the first few days when you just take your baby home from the hospital.
However, one new mum’s request to her friends rubbed them up the wrong way, with people labelling it “cheeky” and “crass.”
In a post on Mumsnet, an unnamed user explained the situation she found herself in after her
“[My] close friend has recently had a baby [and] she’s asked for no visitors,” she wrote.
While the poster acknowledged that the request was “fair,” she went on to explain her issue with her friend’s plans.
“[She] has now announced an ‘open day’ – her words – in which her and her partner will invite all their family and friends to go to their house at the same time to see the baby,” she explained.
The Mumsnet user specified that her problem was with her the invite to the occasion.
She revealed that the mass text invite said: “Although your presence is a present, we kindly ask for a monetary gift as we have plenty of clothes and toys.”
The woman explained why she didn’t appreciate the wording, saying it: “rubbed me up the wrong way.”
“I understand the request for no clothes or toys, but I feel the blatant request for money is quite crass,” she said.
The woman added that she had already purchased a personalised “keepsake gift.”
She shared her plans to still give the gift as it wasn’t an item of clothing or a toy.
However, she reiterated that she found the request to be “a bit cheeky” and “crass.”
Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“They are cheeky feckers. I wouldn’t give them money. I’d take a gift just to make a point that I wasn’t going to be controlled. It’s very grabby of them,” wrote one reader.
“Totally crass of them. I cringe just reading their message. Give the gift you intended. Or nothing,” suggested another commenter.
“Give it a few weeks she will be wondering why nobody makes the effort to visit,” pointed out a third person.
A mum’s perspective on little girl’s clothes
Mum-of-two and Senior Digital Writer at Fabulous, Sarah Bull, has shared her thoughts on buying clothes for young girls.
She shared: “I’m lucky enough to have both a son and a daughter.
“And when it comes to choosing outfits for my kids, I have always erred on the more demure side of things.
“Even with swimwear, I don’t like the idea of little girl wearing a bikini, and will always opt for a one-piece for her when we go swimming.
“My daughter, who’s six, is still in the stage of loving “girly” clothes like tutus and anything that glitters.
“But if she went to a shop and picked up a mini denim skirt or a pair of leather shorts that she wanted me to buy, I know for a fact that I’d put my foot down.
“She’s got years ahead of her to wear what she wants but, as her mother, I’ll be as firm as I possibly can over her wardrobe choices.
“So no, put the leather shorts back, and swap the miniskirts for a fluffy tutu instead.”
“I always buy clothes for when baby is older, knowing full well they will have plenty of new born stuff. Never heard of anyone asking for money, Jesus,” said another Mumsnet user.
“Totally crass, I would be busy on the day and just drop the present round without going in,” wrote one reader.
“Join the queue and bring cash? Bloody rude,” commented another person.
“Oh my gosh, firstly, it’s absolutely absurd to have an ‘open day’ to visit a baby. They aren’t a flipping oracle,” said one commenter.
“She’s acting like it’s a sort of really big important event. I’d be so embarrassed to even do that.”
