A SINGLE mum received backlash online after revealing the proposition she has for her ex.
The woman revealed that she planned to ask her “happily married baby daddy” to donate sperm so she can have a second child.
In a post on Mumsnet, the unnamed user explained the reasoning behind her unusual request.
“I am a single mother to a wonderful toddler who brings so much joy to my life,” she wrote.
“I absolutely love being a mum and I am desperate to have another but I am not interested in having a relationship.”
The poster pointed out that it’s “bloody hard” to meet anyone when she has custody of her child most of the time.
However, she revealed that she was open to using a less traditional method to have her next baby.
“I am considering booking at a clinic and using a sperm donor to have another,” the mum-of-one explained.
She shared the reason why she was hesitant to opt for an anonymous donor.
“It breaks my heart to think that one of my children will have a daddy who they are excited to see, while the other one will not have one at all,” she said.
The woman came up with a solution to this problem, that would also allow her children to be full siblings.
“It would be ideal if I could ask my ex to donate and I think there is a chance he would agree,” she wrote.
She described her former partner’s relationship status as “happily married” and wondered if it would be inappropriate to ask him to donate his sperm.
“I don’t want to offend his current partner,” the Mumsnet user explained.
“I feel absolutely zero romantic or sexual feelings for him now but she might get the wrong idea, or she might feel embarrassed that I’m walking round pregnant with his baby if he agrees.”
Other Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“Yes, it is absolutely bats**t. I can’t even believe you’d consider asking him,” wrote one reader.
SPERM AND EGG DONATION RULES
DONATED sperm and eggs are used in IVF for people who cannot have their own biological children due to fertility issues.
The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority estimates one in every 170 children born today is conceived with the help of a donor.
It is illegal for donors to be paid in the UK, to prevent people doing it for the wrong reasons or prospective parents from being exploited.
Men aged 18 to 46 can donate sperm
- They must go through medical checks to make sure they do not have blood-borne diseases or genetic defects that could be passed on to a baby.
- You cannot donate anonymously. If a child is born using your sperm, they will have the right to know who you are when they turn 18, but you do not have a legal responsibility to look after them.
Women aged 18 to 35 can donate their eggs
- They must go through medical screening for illnesses, genetic problems, and some clinics will not allow obese or otherwise unhealthy women to donate.
- You can donate eggs to someone you know but there are strict rules against mixing sperm and eggs within families.
- Egg donation is the same as the early stages of IVF treatment, and the donor has to take hormonal drugs to stimulate the production and maturation of the eggs before they are removed using a needle.
- You cannot donate anonymously. If a child is born using your egg, they will have the right to know who you are when they turn 18, but you do not have a legal responsibility to look after them.
“He’s married. It just wouldn’t be right to do this, it will get so messy,” said another commenter.
“Why do you have your baby almost 100% of the time? This suggests he’s not as interested in his child’s life as he should be, so it is would be a no from me,” pointed out a third person.
“I would be pretty offended if I were his wife,” commented another reader.
“Bats**t, no man or their partner on earth would agree to this,” said one Mumsnet user.
“His wife will go up the f**king wall if you ask him this. And he will 100% say no,” wrote another commenter.
