A NO-SHOW at a dinner date spiralled into a heated argument when one woman was asked to reimburse the cost of the home-cooked meal.
She had been single for “many years” before sparking up a relationship with her cash-strapped boyfriend.
A woman was shocked when her boyfriend asked her to repay the cost of their home-cooked meal (stock image)[/caption]
The woman said they had been together for just a “couple of months,” when her boyfriend lost his job.
She described their relationship as “tense” since the company he worked for closed down.
“Due to this, most of our dates have been at his house (he can’t come to my house as I flat share),” she wrote on Mumsnet.
“I have bought him little things here and there (not expensive just bits of food) to help him get by.
“Last week, he asked me to come to his flat again.
“This time I told him ‘no’ as I was tired of making the trip all the way to his and if he could come to meet me near where I am and we could go out somewhere (nothing expensive).
“He said ‘ok’ but I didn’t sound keen.”
When the day arrived, her boyfriend failed to get in contact with her, which she assumed was because he was worried about the cost of travel.
She chose not to confront him but was later bombarded with phone calls while at a work event.
“He asked me where I was and that I had promised to go to his and that he had brought food for me,” she said.
“I told him that nothing was confirmed that it was me that I was expecting to hear but left it.
“He then accused me of cheating and lying about where I was.”
She was horrified when hours later he sent her a screenshot of a receipt for food totalling £20.
“I called him back and asked what this was for and he said that he wanted me to pay him back for the food he bought,” she said.
“I told him ‘No way,’ especially since I have bought him things here and there and haven’t asked him to pay me back.
“He then got upset and said that he is expecting me to pay him back either way, accused me of cheating and got a bit angry over the phone.”
She confessed to considering paying him back “just to keep the peace” and suggested there may have been “miscommunication on both sides.”
“Interested to hear anyone’s thoughts,” she said, asking for opinions.
An overwhelming amount of responses to the post urged the woman to break up with her boyfriend because he demanded the money.
“If you definitely said ‘No’ and he went ahead and bought food then that’s his problem,” one person said.
“Plus, what exactly has he bought for £20 that is so special it won’t go in the fridge and he can eat it himself over the next few days?
“I would walk away from this.”
How do most couples split finances when dating?
According to IFA, the financial data company Clear Score surveyed thousands of UK-based couples to find out how they manage their money.
The majority of participants said they split costs 50/50, while just two in five couples split their bills according to income.
Despite money being the number one trigger of arguments, one in six people had hidden debt from their partner and one in four had hidden purchases.
Over a quarter of the couples surveyed described their relationship as “financially unequal.”
Others argued being accused of cheating was a “red flag” that justified ghosting him.
“People are saying dump him because this is not an adult relationship,” one person said.
“To simplify, you told him you would not visit him, but he was welcome to visit you. No firm plans are made.
“He ignores this. He obsessively calls you whilst you are out.
“He makes false accusations against you. He starts a fight over a paltry amount. He got angry over a miscommunication.
“This could be an attempt to control you or manipulate you as you didn’t want to go to his. Or it could just be him being an immature d**k.
“Either way, he is not relationship material. He is a red flag that could be viewed as a controlling jerk.”
“Never contact this man again,” another wrote.
“If he’s behaving like this in a new relationship then I can’t imagine what he’ll be like once a bit more comfortable
“Jealously is such a horrible colour.”
The woman was advised not to give her boyfriend money for the food (stock image)[/caption]
